Well, you never cease to amaze me. Yesterday, we received subpoenas
from another bank showing that woman he lived with right before his death has
transferred $300,000 each into her kids's names. You told me this over two years
ago. It seems like we find out something new every day. I want this over. Anyway,
just wanted to let you know.
When we had our last healing session you said I should write
and ask you about my wedding date a couple weeks ahead of time to see if it was
still ok. Originally I chose 11-11-11 but the scheduling didn't work out so it
has been changed to 11-9-11. Do you see this as being ok? Everything has fallen
into place perfectly except one very important detail....I've had to jump through
so many hoops to get my marriage license, and I still don't have it!! The county
I live in (Cook) is terrible. There is no way with my physical condition (multiple
chemical sensitivities among my other stuff), that I can go to the courthouse
and appear in person as they require. I'd have to park in a parking garage, go
through a metal detector, walk a long distance and try to dodge everyone with
perfumes and clothes dried with dryer sheets which is impossible to do. And if
I get too many scents hitting me at once, I'll have all sorts of reactions and
I can't get out of the building quickly enough. I have a mask I can wear but with
my reduced lung capacity it only works for very short distance so I can't wear
it the whole time. Plus, they don't allow you to bring in any liquids or glass
things into the building and I need my own water and remedies with me at all times.
If I got hit, I'd have nothing to calm down my system otherwise.
ago, when Bill and my mom went to the Rolling Meadows courthouse to check it out
to see if there was any way it work for me, they explained my condition to the
"sympathetic" supervisor (eyes-rolling with sarcasm) and she said that
unless I was terminal they couldn't help me and that I should go to Dupage County
to get a license and get married there! Not liking that nasty answer, the next
day I called the main clerk's office in Chicago and the man I talked to told me
if I got letters from my doctor and the officient explaining my condition and
his supervisor approved me, they would send someone to the house to do my part
of the license and Bill would go to the courthouse to do his. His supervisor would
call me back the next day to let me know where to fax them. I was never called
and finally 2 weeks later and my making many phone calls, I got the number. It
took more time but I got the letters, faxed them last Friday and was told I'd
have an answer Monday. No call. So I called Tuesday and the lady there told me
she thought the director (another person who had to sign off on it) who she called
very 'perceptive' was going to approve me but before she could give me the final
YES, they also had to contact the Rolling Meadows office and she'd know this morning
and would call me back today.
My initial elation as the possible "yes"
turned to a sinking feeling when she said someone from the Rolling Meadows office
would have to be involved. And, big shock, no one called today. So I am still
hanging, wondering. My concern is that even if they approve me, that the Rolling
Meadows supervisor (who I'm thinking may be some evil person from a past life
perhaps) will at the very least drag it out and make me miss my day. Now I see
why people lose their minds dealing with bureaucracy. All I want to do is get
married and I feel like I'm being treated like a criminal. Do they really think
if there was any possible way I could be there I would go through all this hell?
do you see this date working out for me, should I just be patient and wait to
hear from them or is there something else I need to do? I thought about getting
a lawyer because from what I understand under the Americans With Disabilities
Act they really can't deny me since they can't provide safe access for me in that
building...but I know that would take too much time now to make that date. And
once the day was changed to 11-9-11 it really felt right for me...it even has
a nice Taurus moon. Plus as an added bonus my sister-in-law is going to be on
a cruise that week so it's not my fault she can't be at the ceremony and that
is one less hassle I'll have to hear about from her the rest of my life as to
why she wasn't invited! The ceremony is going to take place in a completely safe
space with NO fragrance allowed and she could never comply with that.
sorry to have written a novel here. I appreciate the chance to get this out. All
I really meant to do was ask that simple question but the rest came pouring out.
It's supposed to be a joyful time but all I feel is stress.
You have been
such a help to me....I am shut in ..... I can not believe I even met a man like
you said......but I AM GETTING MARRIED.
(week later) I just wanted to
let you know that I took your advice and I finally got my marriage license today.
YAY! Bill went to the courthouse yesterday and gave the necessary information
and signed it and the woman supervisor (who gave them the hard time when they
first went) came to the house today to get my signature. There was one bit of
information that was wrong (my occupation was listed as retired instead of self-employed...he
missed that when looking it over...he's having concentration issues lately) but
she let me cross it out, fix it and initial it. I thought Bill was going to pass
out when he saw the mistake.
I was still on the phone with him yesterday
when that question was asked because he had to call to get some other information
from me about my father that he didn't know. He wanted to hand her the phone to
ask me the questions directly which, honestly, made more sense to me, but she
made him repeat my answers. When I heard him answer the occupation question, I,
like him, thought they were asking about my Mom because right before that she
asked info about my Dad and then my Mom (place born, where living now) and then
the occupation question phrased as "what is her occupation"? So I didn't
think twice about it. And despite telling her that whoever came to the house they
couldn't wear perfume, she had it on, so I got nailed a bit. So, it was exciting
to the last moment! But I have it in my hands now and that's all that matters
but I was going to go ahead with the ceremony even if I didn't get it.
again, Tonya, for all you've done for me. I wouldn't be able to even consider
getting married now if not for your wonderful insights and support and healing
help all these years.
I'm MARRIED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! The ceremony
took place Wednesday morning as planned. It was PERFECT and there were many angels
in attendance. It was even better than I had ever dreamed it would be. I suppose
if you told someone you were getting married at your doctor's office they would
think you were nuts, but I felt like I was in the most beautiful cathedral in
the world...even the nasty cold, rainy weather parted for me for those couple
hours before, during and right after the ceremony. When I have a picture to send,
I will email you one. THANK YOU for all you have done for me over the years to
make this a reality. You truly are an ANGEL!!
I'm still having no luck with getting Skylar legal representation.(Or
even myself) My old/current lawyer for my vehicle accident case, had to file a
law suit for me a few weeks ago. I stressed he needed to keep our information/identity
confidential. And that he needed to file it as a Jane Doe. I don't know if he
has done this. I have sent 2 emails and called once. I have not received any calls
or emails back. I 'm worried he messed up again, and used my name and it's in
the public records. And that it could bring the biological father around us. (I
sure hope he stays away forever, hopefully girlfriends keep him occupied) Did
my lawyer use Jane Doe and we're still safe? And I've been trying to hire a legal
nurse consultant, Even having problems with that. These are the ones I've been
trying to use.
This creates such a downward spiral of myself into depression.
I thought Wendy would understand about brain injury enough that when I said, I
was not capable of it, she would believe me.)
So now, I'm not sure if
I should use Wendy Thomason even, or if she will even let me hire her to review
case. She thought the statue of limitations was over , and I could not proceed,
I had to tell her that more damage was found in 2009, so statue is not over. It's
like she's trying too hard before she checks thru records. And I could not convince
her to screen case without me speaking with Jackie first. I 'm kinda worried that
she won't even screen it now, even knowing that I'm willing to pay for her services.
She should received the medical records in the mail by Friday morning. I think
with her being the President of legal nurse consulting group she would have a
lot of connections. So is Wendy the right one to use?
or Use a lady named
Dolores Jones, from Seattle. She also has some experience with neurology but I'm
not sure what. I sent her discs of medical records 3 weeks ago. I just got a message
from her returning my phone calls finally. She thinks she has to much going on
right now to screen the case. But she is going to send information to some other
Legal nurse consultant she knows. I do not know who this is. But should I be using
the person Dolores finds???
Who knows, maybe now Wendy understands the
difficulty I'm having. And she will be able to be more helpful now??? What should
I do?? I have been trying to find out how to get around my brain injury limitations.
I figured hiring someone to be a brain for me would be a good avenue. But even
that is difficult to get done. No wonder I don't have a lawyer, I'm having difficulties
even getting a LNC to screen case with me paying for it.
I just can't believe
how hard of a time I'm having. And also, Skylar has been having trouble with being
unable to breathe last few days. It happens when he is awake, but also wakes him
up from sleep . He has his mouth open and you can tell he cannot get air. This
terrifies him and me. I have left messages with Seattle Childrens Neurology, but
they have yet to return my call. Is he having seizures, and is it going to be
ok. Or is this brain stem damage and it's causes breathing difficulties. I never
felt comfortable with all the diagnoses we've gotten. I believe they are hiding
a lot from me. Sometimes I think they are not going to tell me much because if
there is brain stem injury. He might just stop breathing and his heart could stop
because all the automatic systems in his body are all messed up. Is he going to
Eagerly waiting for your input,
Wow, was I impressed with you last time. You wanted to actually speak with me.
It really made me see what a nice caring person you are. I had read that some
people like to listen to your voice on the answering machine. I'm going to probably
be one of those eventually. So thank you lot. Just wait when all this plays out
like you've said. I'll be writing up a glowing review.n
Last night I had sent you a thank you e-mail for you lovely news
letter and then stated that I'd let you know what happened tonight at the semi-finals
of the state football playoffs. My son's team won and the boys were crying. They
are now going to state. Apprapo to your newsletter,,,,on November 4th they won
the first round of the playoffs...
Tonight amidst a retrograde beginning
and after an eclipse the Cinderella team that no one gave any respect to is now
going to the Colorado 5a state championship. So with all of my stress with the
teaching job and in the middle of chaos with Denver Public Schools,,,,a good thing
is happening in my son and his team's life. So this happy feeling takes away all
of the sadness I've had periodically for 18 months or more...
Again, as always,
your newsletters are excellent and so worth reading. You are good at tuning in
to the energy..
Thank you Tonya
thought you would like to know, years ago you thought Matt and I would be together
only 12 years. For some reason I remembered this.
Well, we will have 12
years together this February. As you know, he had triple bypass heart surgery
2/27/2002 ( 9 years, 9 months ago ). Average life is 10 years. He almost made
it as he had a little bump in the road and I had a calm feeling about it all.
That little bump must have been what you saw.
Last Friday he had to have
a stent placed in his heart area. His arteries were good and clear, but the area
where the heart arteries meet was blocked 99%. He feels he is a new man. Feels
great. Cardiologist says the new stents last 5-10 years (vs back in 2002 they
lasted 6 months to 5 years). So, we are betting on 5 years minimum and going to
travel a lot more in our semi-retirement.
Thanks Tonya for being there
and kind of giving me a warning even tho we didn't know what that warning was
for. It was a good and positive thing. Matt and I are closer than ever and still
madly in love.