 Why
do I attract liars or cheaters?
Look at yourself, do you deserve this? Is this a lesson? Are
you one of them? Do you feel guilty about something? If this
is true, then maybe do some community services or charity
work. Give of yourself so you can forgive you.
Beware of people that accuse you of cheating on them or lying
to them. They are looking in their own mirror and accusing
themselves, and they are the cheaters and liars. Watch a liar.
They always look up at the ceiling, or close their eyes when
they are lying to you.
Why do I attract alcoholics and bad
boys/bad women?
It all goes back to being a kid; did one of your parents have
addictions or hidden parts of their personality? Do you like
drama? Chemistry lasts about 3 years with the bad boy/woman,
then it is all over, and usually not in a good way (Read
the Soul Mate page.) Do you drink too
much? They all have low self esteem, do you? Are you just
fooling yourself into thinking you can fix them?
To all you people that attract the
wrong people and may move in with them right away, or cosign
or co-mingle your credit with things like cell phones and
leases - please watch the court shows on TV, and you will
learn from their mistakes.
It takes 5 years to really know someone
when you date them. Anyone who tries to move in with you too
quickly is afraid you might get to know the real them and
you will dump them, so they move in fast before you throw
them out. Beware of fast movers! Never marry anyone for at
least 3 years.
Habitual Liars:
Simply put, there is no cure for this, and they can get around
psychics because they actually believe the crap they are spewing!
If someone you are with lies a lot, especially about stupid
stuff, just move on. Run now, because they are the type to
go to prostitutes, strip clubs, cheat on you, take drugs,
gamble, have two wives, do not trust them EVER!
Narcissism:
Are you dating/married or working with a person with these
traits?
Narcissistic personality disorder symptoms include:
- Believing
that you're better than others.
- Fantasizing
about power, success, and attractiveness.
- Exaggerating
your achievements or talents.
- Expecting
constant praise and admiration.
- Believing
that you're special; more than anyone.
- Failing
to recognize other people's emotions and feelings.
- Expecting
others to go along with your ideas and plans.
- Taking
advantage of others.
- Lacks
empathy for anyone and anyone else’s needs.
- Expressing
disdain for those you feel are inferior.
- Being
jealous of others.
- Believing
that others are jealous of you.
- Trouble
keeping healthy relationships.
- Setting
unrealistic goals.
- Being
easily hurt and rejected.
- Having
a fragile self-esteem, but has a grandiose sense of self-importance
(e.g., exaggerates achievements and talents, expects to
be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements.)
- Will
be preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power,
brilliance, beauty, or ideal love (they date, and date,
and date.)
- Truly
believes that he or she is "special" and unique
and can only be understood by, or should associate with,
other special or high-status people (or institutions.)
- Requires
and demands excessive admiration.
- Has
a sense of entitlement, i.e., unreasonable expectations
of especially favorable treatment, or automatic compliance
with his or her expectations.
- Is
often envious of others, or believes that others are envious
of him or her.
- Shows
arrogant, haughty, behaviors or attitudes.
- Appearing
as tough-minded or unemotional; Jealousy and possessiveness.
- Excessive
need to feel special, adored, loved, appreciated, or admired.
- Rage
attacks when you do not sufficiently meet his/her needs
- Controlling
behaviors (trying to control how you spend your time,
who you talk to, how you dress, etc.)
- Inflated
self-esteem, or grandiosity (bragging, "fishing"
for compliments.)
- Dramatic,
insecure behaviors.
- Expecting
you to take responsibility for making him/her feel better
about him/herself.
- Blaming
you for behaviors or feelings (i.e., "YOU made me
do this," or "YOU made me feel this way.")
- Not
taking responsibility for angry behavior, and justifying
angry outbursts.
- An
attitude that demonstrates "the world revolves around
me" and "you need to cater to my ideas, opinions,
thoughts, and feelings."
- An
unwillingness to reflect on his/her own behaviors.
- Will
pretend to want to change, go to therapists/psychics/astrologers,
weight loss clinics, and they will ask questions about
how they can improve their lives – yet they do not
mean it. Easier to blame their Mom, or the last relationship
they were in.
Here
are some more signs of Narcissistic Personality Disorder to
look out for:
Although some features of narcissistic personality disorder
may seem like having confidence or strong self-esteem, it's
not the same. Narcissistic personality disorder crosses the
border of healthy confidence and self-esteem into thinking
so highly of yourself that you put yourself on a pedestal.
In contrast, people who have healthy confidence and self-esteem
don't value themselves more than they value others.
When you have narcissistic personality disorder, you may come
across as conceited, boastful or pretentious. You often monopolize
conversations. You may belittle or look down on people you
perceive as inferior. You may have a sense of entitlement.
And when you don't receive the special treatment to which
you feel entitled, you may become very impatient or angry.
You may also seek out others you think have the same special
talents, power and qualities — people you see as equals.
You may insist on having "the best" of everything
— the best car, athletic club, medical care or social
circles, for instance.
But underneath all this grandiosity often lies a very fragile
self-esteem. You have trouble handling anything that may be
perceived as criticism. You may have a sense of secret shame
and humiliation. And in order to make yourself feel better,
you may react with rage or contempt and efforts to belittle
the other person to make yourself appear better.
Narcissistic personality disorder is a condition characterized
by an inflated sense of self-importance, need for admiration,
extreme self-involvement, and lack of empathy for others.
Individuals with this disorder are usually arrogantly self-assured
and confident. They expect to be noticed as superior. Many
highly successful individuals might be considered narcissistic.
However, this disorder is only diagnosed when these behaviors
become persistent and very disabling or distressing.
Complications of being with someone
with this disorder:
Vulnerability in self-esteem makes individuals with this disorder
very sensitive to criticism or defeat. Although they may not
show it outwardly, criticism may haunt these individuals these
individuals and may leave them feeling humiliated, degraded,
hollow, and empty. They may react with disdain, rage, or defiant
counterattack. Many serial killers have this trait.
Their social life is often impaired due to problems derived
from entitlement, the need for admiration, and the relative
disregard for the sensitivities of others. Though their excessive
ambition and confidence may lead to high achievement; performance
may be disrupted due to intolerance of criticism or defeat.
Sometimes vocational functioning can be very low, reflecting
an unwillingness to take a risk in competitive or other situations
in which defeat is possible. Individuals with this disorder
have special difficulties adjusting to growing old and losing
their former superiority? If you are with this person, you
may want to move on with your life alone.
For
more information about narcissistic people, the following
links are really good:
Definition of Narcissism
Take
the Narcissistic Personality Inventory
Dr.
Drew's Narcissism Test
Recovery
from Narcissistic Abuse
I hope you learned something here, and that I helped to clear
some issues up for you. If you are with a Crazy Maker, or
you always seem to end up with one, I can help you break this
pattern.
Contact Tonya Now
to set up your session.
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